121: 5 Truths That Will Help You Learn How to Stop People-Pleasing
What would be possible in your business (or life) if you knew how to stop people-pleasing?
You’d feel less overwhelmed in your business. You’d be a happier person, too, in the long-run. And you might not even realize all the negative consequences that people-pleasing has on various aspects of your life. (Or maybe you’re painfully aware but just can’t seem to stop it)!
What you need is the real truth behind your people-pleasing tendency... a big picture view, if you will. I’ve discovered something that sheds light on this and am excited to share it with you on Time to Level Up.
What I discovered was a book by Amy Morin. Morin is a licensed clinical social worker and author. And in her book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, she discusses truths behind people-pleasing that offer an opportunity for you to finally break the habit.
In this episode of Time to Level Up, you’ll learn Morin’s five truths about people-pleasing and how the effects of it can show up in your life or business. I’ll also teach you four things you can do right now to get out of any people-pleasing tendency you’ve developed.
What’s Covered in This Episode About How to Stop People-Pleasing
2:29 - What people-pleasing is really about
3:48 - Truth #2: the likability and respectability factor
4:45 - Why annoyance doesn’t equal dislike
7:07 - Why it’s not worth getting people to like or respect you
8:50 - The last truth that will help you eliminate your people-pleasing habit
10:12 - Four things you can do to get a handle on people-pleasing tendencies
17:08 - A personal and professional example of how I learned to stop people-pleasing
Mentioned In 5 Truths That Will Help You Learn How to Stop People-Pleasing
13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do by Amy Morin
Quotes from this Episode of Time to Level Up
“People-pleasing is really just you controlling. It is not pleasing to the other person” - Andrea Liebross
"If we have to keep working hard or too hard to measure up to our own expectations, then we have a problem, we become burnt out." - Andrea Liebross
"Let go of unrealistic expectations that everyone will like you and never be mad at you. That's not true. Not everybody will like you." - Andrea Liebross
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